Eph 5:22-24 – Was Paul a sexist?

Problem: Critics of the Bible have argued that Scripture is chauvinistic toward women. For instance, critical scholar Peter Richardson writes, “The goal in Paul’s exegesis appears to be, without I hope being unduly harsh, greater conformity with the… view of subordination of women.”[1] While this might sound harsh, the Bible has very difficult passages toward women. For instance, Peter writes, “Wives [should] be submissive to your own husbands” (1 Pet. 3:1). Elsewhere, Paul writes, “The man is the head of a woman” (1 Cor. 11:3), and he states, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. (Eph. 5:22-24). Is this a sexist attitude toward women? Critics argue that this is ancient patriarchy at its worst.

Religion has never been kind toward women

Solution: Feminist scholarship considers religion to be misogynistic and patriarchal. Misogyny comes from the Greek roots misein (“to hate”) and gyne (“woman”). Patriarchy comes from the roots pater (“father”) and archos (“ruler”). Christian authors usually respond to these accusations by claiming that feminists are exaggerating or misconstruing the data. However, that is not our view. Instead, it seems that feminist scholarship does have a good hold on how religion has oppressed women. Consider a number of different religious systems in this regard:

  1. Talmudic Judaism: The Talmud records, “A man’s wickedness is better than a woman’s goodness; women bring shame and disgrace.”[2] Elsewhere, we read, “May the words of Torah be burned, than that they should be handed over to women.”[3] Rabbi Eliezer says, “Whoever teaches his daughter Torah teaches her obscenity.”[4] Of course, this thinking does not occur in the Hebrew Bible, but sadly, rabbinic Judaism taught this misogynistic doctrine like this.

  2. Hinduism: Manu’s Code states, “Him to whom her father may give her, or her brother with the father’s permission, she shall obey as long as she lives. Though destitute of virtue, or seeking pleasure elsewhere, or devoid of good qualities, a husband must be constantly worshiped as a god by a faithful wife.”[5] Secular authors Carmody and Carmody write,

Between the first Vedas (1500 BCE) and the first codes of law (100 CE), women’s religious role steadily declined. A major reason for this was the lowering of the marriage age from fifteen or sixteen to ten and even five. This both removed the possibility of education (and consequently religious office) and fixed women’s role to being wife and mother. In fact, in later Hinduism being a wife was so important that a widow was prohibited from mentioning any man’s name but that of her deceased husband.[6]

They [women] were subject, successively, to fathers, husbands, and elder sons. As soon as they approached puberty, their fathers hastened to marry them off, and during their wedded lives they were to honor their husbands without reservation… This held true even if their husbands were deformed, aged, debauched, lived openly with other women, or showed them no affection. To ritualize this attitude of devotion, orthodox Hindu authors counseled wives to adore the big toe of their husband’s right foot, bathing it as they would an idol, and offering incense before it as they would to a great god.[7]

In Hindu society, women were not eligible for moksha; the best that a woman could hope for was to be reborn as a man.[8]

The birth of a girl was not an occasion for joy. Hindus attributed it to bad karma in a previous life and frequently announced the event by saying, ‘Nothing was born.’[9]

Hindu religious texts frequently imagine a woman as a snake, hell’s entrance, death, a prostitute, or an adulteress. In Manu’s code, slaying a woman was one of the minor offenses.[10]
Secular comparative religions scholar S.A. Nigosian writes,

In no way, then, are women considered to be equal to men or even to be free members of the family or caste… Proper behavior for a woman means an arranged marriage by her father at the proper time, usually soon after puberty (in some localities, child marriage is still a common practice)… The next proper duty of a woman is to respect, obey, and worship her husband, even if he is unfaithful, virtueless, and devoid of good qualities.[11]

Traditionally, a widow was expected to accompany the corpse of her husband to the funeral pyre and be burned alive by his side (sati) on the assumption that a woman who outlived her husband had caused his death by her evil karma.[12]
3. Islam: The Quran reads: “Your women are a tillage for you; so come unto your tillage as you wish” (Surah 2:223). “Men are the managers of the affairs of women for that God has preferred in bounty one of them over another… Righteous women are therefore obedient, guarding the secret for God’s guarding. And those you fear may be rebellious admonish; banish them to their couches, and beat them” (Surah 4:34). Carmody and Carmody note,

For many men, the best part of the heavenly Garden was the hur: dark-eyed, buxom virgins. In addition to his earthly wife, each male in heaven could expect to have seventy hur. They would never be sick, menstruating, pregnant (unless he wished), bad-tempered, or jealous. He would be able to deflower a thousand each month and find them all intact when he returned to them. In descriptions of the Judgment scene, one sees the reverse of this fantasy: Women are in charge of men, which is a sure sign of disorder.[13]
4. China: Eastern religion didn’t fare much better. Carmody and Carmody write,

Confucianism was largely misogynistic. The woman’s role in Confuscianism was to obey and serve her parents, husband, and husband’s parents. She was useless until she produced a male heir, and her premarital chastity and marital fidelity were more important than a man’s.[14]

The Chinese ritual of foot binding was a thousand-year-old horror show in which women were grotesquely crippled from very early childhood… the hideous three-inch-long ‘lotus’ hooks–which in reality were odiferous, useless stumps–were the means by which the Chinese patriarchs saw to it that their girls and women would never ‘run around.’[15]
5. Secular Worldview: One might think that secular thinkers would hold to a more egalitarian view. However, historically, this hasn’t been the case. For instance, both Aristotle and Nietzsche claim that women are weaker than men, and men should dominate over them, because of their physical prowess. Aristotle writes,

The relation of male to female is by nature a relation of superior to inferior and ruler to ruled. (Aristotle, Politics, 1254b)

[Woman is] more mischievous, less simple, more impulsive… more compassionate… more easily moved to tears… more jealous, more critical, more apt to scold and to strike… more prone to despondency and less hopeful… more void of shame or self-respect, more false of speech, more deceptive, of more retentive memory… also more wakeful; more shrinking [and] more difficult to rouse to action. (Aristotle, History of Animals, 608b. 1-14)
Friedrich Nietzsche (19th century atheistic philosopher) writes,

Yet woman is not capable of friendship: women are still always cats and birds. Or, in the best case, cows.[16]

Everything in woman is a riddle, and everything in woman hath one answer: its name is child bearing… Man shall be educated for war, and woman for the recreation of the warrior. Everything else is folly… Man’s happiness is: ‘I will.’ Woman’s happiness: ‘He will.’ …Thou goest to women? Remember thy whip![17]
6. Unbiblical Christianity: Christian leaders have been guilty of misogyny as well:

Clement of Alexandria (AD 250): Every woman should be filled with shame by the thought that she is a woman. (Pedagogues II, 33, 2)

Jerome (4th century): As long as woman is for birth and children, she is as different from man as body is from soul. But when she wishes to serve Christ more than the world, then she will cease to be a woman and will be called Man. (Commentary on the Epistle to the Ephesians, III, 5)

Ambrose (4th century): One who does not believe is a woman and should be designated by the name of that sex, whereas one who believes progresses to perfect manhood, to the measure of adulthood in Christ, with the name of the sex dispensing with the seductiveness of youth and the garrulousness of old age. (Ambrose, The Exposition of the Gospel of St. Luke, lib.X, n.161)

Augustine (AD 4th century): I don’t see what sort of help woman was created to provide man with, if one excludes procreation. If woman is not given to man for help in bearing children, for what help could she be? To till the earth together? If help were needed for that, man would have been a better help for man. The same goes for comfort in solitude. How much more pleasure is it for life and conversation when two friends live together than when a man and a woman cohabitate? (De genesi ad litteram, 9, 5-9)

John Chrysostom (5th century): [Women] in no case outstrip the men, but occupied the second rank. (Epistle to the Ephesians, Homily 13)

Leander of Seville (AD 6th century): Nor has she any need to become a slave to her body which by natural law should be subservient to a man. Happy the virgin who takes her body from Eve but not her punishment. (Regula Episcopi, Preface)

As we can see, Christian leaders have been guilty of misogyny just as much as any other religion on Earth. But what does the Bible say about women? When we turn to Scripture, we see that the Bible has a uniquely positive and empowering view of women.

The Bible’s unique view of women
The Bible has a high view of women in both the Old and New Testaments:

Old Testament view: In the OT, the ideal woman “opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Prov. 31:26). Deborah was appointed as a judge in Israel (Judg. 2:16; Neh. 9:27). Likewise, Abigail was a “wise and prudent woman,” who corrected David from making a huge mistake (1 Sam. 25:33-35). Esther rescued and led the nation of Israel, during turbulent times (Est. 4:14; 8:17). Additionally, Jesus had a following of women (Lk. 23:49). This was scandalous considering his first-century religious milieu. In fact, when Jesus rises from the dead, he first appears to women—not to men (Mt. 28:1-10; Jn. 20:10-18).

New Testament view: In the NT, Priscilla was a Bible teacher, and Paul was close with her in ministry (Rom. 16:3). The fact that she is listed before Aquila (her husband) is significant because this notified seniority in her ministry.[18] In fact, she even teaches Apollos—a gifted Christian preacher—about theology and doctrine (Acts 18:26). Phoebe was a deaconess in the church in Rome (Rom. 16:1). Euodia and Syntyche were esteemed by Paul as two women “who have shared… in the cause of the gospel” (Phil. 4:2-3). Junia is mentioned as “outstanding among the apostles” (Rom. 16:7). It is difficult to imagine someone with an apostolic gift not being able to teach in their own church. Lois and Eunice taught Timothy (2 Tim. 1:5; 3:14-15). Paul gives prescriptions for the role of women in the church, which includes praying and prophesying (1 Cor. 11:5; Acts 2:18; 21:9).

What does it mean for a husband to lead his wife in marriage?
The Bible does teach that husbands should lead their wives in marriage. Many people are cynical toward leadership, because we have seen so many examples of abusive, hypocritical, or egotistical authority. It is safe to say that the word “authority” is a loaded term—especially when we’ve seen the way patriarchy has walked all over women. However, when we read an ancient text, we need to understand the words based on their terms—not ours. What does Paul mean when he claims that husbands should be leaders to their wives?

  1. It does not mean inequality. For instance, the man is no more superior to his wife, than the Father is superior to Christ (v.3). Later in this passage, Paul writes, “In the Lord, neither is woman independent of man, nor is man independent of woman” (1 Cor. 11:11). Elsewhere, Paul explains, “There is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:28; c.f. Gen. 1:27; Gen. 5:1). Before the Fall, God gave both men and women the right to rule over creation.

  2. It does not mean that a woman should follow the leadership of any man—just her husband. Paul writes, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Eph. 5:22). The Greek word for “man” is the same for “husband.” (Greek aner; pronounced ah-NARE), and the Greek word for “woman” is the same for “wife.” (Greek gyne; pronounced goo-NAY). The context determines its use.

  3. It does not mean patriarchy—but responsibility. Paul writes that husbands should love their wives “just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25). Jesus loved the church enough to sacrifice his life for her. Therefore, this is the example against which we should compare servant leadership in marriage. Under this definition, servant leadership is not authoritarian—but sacrificial. In fact, servant love is the antithesis of patriarchy.

  4. It does not mean cruel or worldly leadership. Elsewhere, Jesus gives a clear definition of leadership: “You know that those who are recognized as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them; and their great men exercise authority over them. 43 But it is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant; 44 and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be slave of all. 45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many” (Mk. 10:42-45). Here, Jesus redefines what leadership truly means: humility, compassion, and sacrificial love.

  5. It does not mean unqualified leadership. Notice, Paul writes, “Christ is the head of the man.” In the biblical view of marriage, both spouses submit to God and his Word. The husband could not command or force his wife to do anything that is outside of the bounds of Scripture. In Ephesians, we read that marriage should be presupposed by being “subject to one another in the fear of Christ” (Eph. 5:21).

For this reason, Christians cannot deny leadership in marriage, because we are operating out of a different definition of what leadership even is. People in our culture assume that leadership refers to power and authority, but under the biblical definition, leadership means sacrificial love and service. Based on this view, the husband is responsible to initiate love, serve, apologize, and be responsible for leading the marriage on grey issues, which aren’t clearly defined in Scripture. When we properly understand the biblical view of leadership in marriage, frankly, we find that this isn’t a privilege for the husband; instead, it is a serious burden and responsibility!

Controversial Passages
Critics of the Bible typically point to these passages to critique the Bible’s view of women. We treat each passage below:

Genesis 2:18 Are women merely a “helper” for men?

Genesis 3:16 Does this passage sanction men ruling over women?

Romans 16:7 Was there a female apostle (Junia), or was this a contraction for a man’s name (Junias)?

1 Corinthians 11:5-6 Is it wrong for a woman to have her head uncovered while praying?

1 Corinthians 11:7-9 Are women made in God’s image or man’s?

1 Corinthians 14:34-35 Are women supposed to keep silent?

1 Timothy 2:12-15 Paul writes, “I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.” Are women allowed to teach men or not?

1 Peter 3:1 Peter writes, “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands” (1 Pet. 3:1).

(1 Pet. 3:3) Does this mean that women should not wear makeup and jewelry?

(1 Pet. 3:6) When did Sarah obey Abraham in the OT?

(1 Pet. 3:7) Does Peter think that women are inferior to men?

Why is God called a Him rather than a Her?

[1] Peter Richardson, “Paul Today: Jews, Slaves, and Women,” Crux 8 (1970): 37. Cited in House, Wayne. “Paul, Women, and Contemporary Evangelical Feminism.” Bibliotheca Sacra—January-March 1979. 41.

[2] Sirach 42:14.

[3] Sota, 10a.

[4] Sota 21b.

[5] Manu 5.151-154.

[6] Emphasis mine. Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 87.

[7] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 87.

[8] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 87.

[9] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 87.

[10] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 87.

[11] Nigosian, S.A. World Religions: A Historical Approach. Third Edition. Boston: Bedford/St.Martin’s, 2000. 24.

[12] Nigosian, S.A. World Religions: A Historical Approach. Third Edition. Boston: Bedford/St.Martin’s, 2000. 25.

[13] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 333.

[14] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 161.

[15] Carmody, Denise Lardner, and John Carmody. Ways to the Center: An Introduction to World Religions. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth Pub., 1984. 161.

[16] Nietzsche, Friedrich. Thus Spake Zarathustra: A Book for All and None. The MacMillan Company. London. 1896. 75.

[17] Nietzsche, Friedrich. Thus Spake Zarathustra: A Book for All and None. The MacMillan Company. London. 1896. 88-90.

[18] Keener writes, “That Priscilla’s name is mentioned before her husband’s in Romans 16:3 and twice in Acts is noteworthy, because the husband was nearly always mentioned first unless the wife was of higher social status or neither party had any concern for status.” Keener, Craig S. Paul, Women, & Wives: Marriage and Women’s Ministry in the Letters of Paul. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2013.

[19] See McCallum’s article for a blow-by-blow defense of the Kroeger’s work.

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